Moving On After a Breakup

Image via Wikipedia Why Poison Your Future With Pain From the Past

Have you been crushed in the past by a person you trusted or been overwhelmed by loneliness after a breakup? If you're at the stage of anger, you must learn how to release the anger and bitterness out of your life, because that is the poison that will take the smile off your heart and drain the river of blessing from your soul.

Naturally, there will be stages of anger and depression after a breakup. It's part of the grieving process, which should lead to closure of the past. The healing process prepares you for the future during the stages of acceptance, hope and fulfillment.

Release the Bitterness and Grow
To release bitterness in your heart, try taking these steps:

• Admit your own mistakes.
• Confess to the Lord your God that you are living with bitterness in your heart and that it is wrong to do so.
• Seek harmony with Godly friends.
• Don't share your bitterness with others.
• Read scripture, feed on the word of God (Psalms of David is a good place to start).
• Look forward and not backward.
• Look at those who won over bitterness in the bible such as Joseph (Genesis 37-45) or David (1 Samuel 16-30).

Don't allow bitterness to rob you of the success and joy you can experience after a breakup. Truly, acceptance will eventually come and when it does you'll feel peace. With peace comes hope and hope is your motivation for tomorrow, which says, "I will live and love again."

Now that you have hope, your life has purpose. You'll begin to grow emotionally and develop more friendships. Congratulations, you are entering the stage of fulfillment, where you will find a new relationship, a new career or some other achievement. Dare to believe that.

Soon you'll find yourself at a place where old memories of failure are gone and there is no cause to recycle emotional baggage through the ears of friends. You're happy about tomorrow and everyone knows it. See, you can move on after a breakup!

Related articles

• Lesson #11: Make Peace with Your Past So It Doesn't Screw Up the Present (divorcingmrwrong.wordpress.com)

Coping With a Broken Heart

Image via Wikipedia

Your first step when coping with a broken heart is... allow yourself to grieve. This is the beginning of the healing process. Don't forget, this too shall pass. Trust me, this grief will pass. Give yourself some time to sort matters out. After a few days you should find ways to take your mind off of the grief you're experiencing.

Do Something That Will Take Your Mind Off the Grief

Get in touch with some people you haven't seen in a while or go out with folks from work. It's crucial that you do something. Even if it is something that you've wanted to do but just haven't brought yourself around to doing yet. How about taking that vacation that you’ve been putting off.

Here's low-down, there are emotional stages you will go through following this loss. They will more or less go like this: sadness, anger, denial, hurt, and then acceptance.

Sure, sometimes a relationship ends and it is final.  Yes, you will feel as though you'll never be happy again but listen... with time your life gets even better than it was before, although you may not realize this now. Your feelings will change.

Treat the period of time after a hard breakup exactly as if that person had died. Allow yourself time for sorrow, then acknowledge the fact... it's time to move on.

You will need to look after yourself. Changes to your daily routine can help you focus on a new and better life. Join a local fitness program or a church group. Become more active get out there and meet new people.

Volunteer work is always good for the spirit, it will be good for you to deny yourself and help others. We tend to focus less on our own problems when helping others who are really in need. Your life will be different now so instead of living in uncertainty and fear, seize this opportunity with both hands. Who knows, something or someone better may just be over that next hill.

Do you believe that we only have one soul mate in life? Sure, partners who met when they were teenagers and who are still together in their senior years is great. But there are also many other couples that split-up with someone in the past and now have found happiness again.

People change throughout the course of a lifetime. Our significant other will change as well. As a couple we tend to adjust and stay together. But oftentimes relationships don't last a lifetime. One or the other partner will determine that they want something different. You may be heartbroken at first but when it's all said and done you can be just as happy if not happier with someone else.